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Is your glass half full?

4 Apr

It’s a classic phrase, one that is constantly used to illustrate the difference between an optimist, and a pessimist. However, the same phrase and question can tell you a lot about your own mindset towards life in general, are you a positive thinking person? Or do you have a rather negative outlook?

It is well documented that negative thoughts can have real negative impacts on our lives. So by the same reasoning we should remember that positive thinking can have a positive influence in our lives in general. This theory is even illustrated on a number of TV shows, though exaggerated; we can find a number of characters who we all seem to admire, simply because they have a very positive outlook on life.   Now let me explain that when I say positive thinking I mean healthy, balanced, realistic and helpful.  I don’t mean like Pollyanna, where even stuck in traffic on a hot day when you have an important appointment to make, is positively spun. 

But sometimes it is good to see how one person’s poison can be another person’s sugar, proving what we say in CBT that it is your beliefs, thoughts and attitudes that are at the heart of your emotional responses.  For example, I was watching Cougar Town (if you don’t know it, it is an American sitcom starring Courtney Cox on Sky Living), which has a character, Andy, who has an unbelievable positive outlook on life. A recent episode was devoted to this and how positive thinking deals with a number of events in his life (I know a little silly and farfetched but it gets the point across in an exaggerated fashion). The character constantly sees the good things in all the events that happen to him, even those that many of us would have seen as stressful or difficult, for example a  lost phone; lost wedding ring; relationship problems etc. But Andy’s character remains positive, and deals with all these “negative” events with ease, allowing him to remain constantly happy and up-beat.  Now wouldn’t we all want to be like that all of the time?

“People are not disturbed by events but by the view they hold about them”. Epictitus.

Glass is Half empty…Negativity…

You have to admit that being a pessimist is far more draining than being an eternal optimist. Optimists seem more relaxed, happy with life and events simply because they see the positive and enjoy positive emotions. On the flip side, if we suffer with negative thinking and negative emotions, these can have powerful impacts on our day to day lives.

One of the most challenging and unhealthy negative emotions is that of Anxiety. It’s experienced by all of us at some time or other and it takes many forms. Some of the more familiar labels used to describe common anxiety problems are work related stress, panic attacks and panic disorder, post traumatic stress disorder, performance anxiety and general and specific phobias.  Each of these emotional problems has its own focus, but each share a common origin.

Seeing the glass has half full…

Taking a positive approach to all events in your life will help with your own happiness. But dealing with those strong negative thoughts and emotions may require help.  CBH (Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapy) can not only help you tackle negative emotions, but also provide you with the tools to combat them in the future.

For more information on CBH, anxiety, depression, hypnosis etc please read some of our useful pages on our website, some of which are shown below:

 http://www.ccbh.org.uk/cognitive_behavioural_hypnotherapy_cbh

http://www.ccbh.org.uk/hypnosis_and_depression

http://www.ccbh.org.uk/applications_of_cognitive_behavioural_hypnotherapy